Helps a read a lot it really helps to write. So if you want to make yourself articulate, which is very a good idea, then not only you should read but you should write down what you think. And if you can do that little bit every day, 15 minutes, maybe you can steal your 15 minutes and do it every day, but if you do that for 10 years, you really straighten out your thinking. If you gonna speak effectively, you have to know way more than you’re talking about. Having the aim to be a good communicator is a good start.
Liberal education: there isn’t anything that you can possibly do that makes you more competent in everything you do than to learn how to communicate.
Me as a graduate from faculty of humanities. So I do have a bachelor of arts degree. What’s the use of a bachelor’s degree, as a Bachelor of Arts:
You can think
You can write
You can speak
You’ve read something
It’s like the economic value that incalculable. You can articulate, you can negotiate, it doesn’t have to win, it’s successful.
But, can I? I don’t know.
What is your goal:
Find the meaning of all the things, think very reasonable
Not being stupid
Not making foolish mistakes
Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, and not to who someone else is today. Because if you’re comparing yourself to someone else, I mean first of all you don’t know very much about the life of the person you’re comparing yourself to you don’t know. You know it across all of its dimensions and second people are very different and so comparing yourself to someone else, it’s kind useful I guess when you’re young, but as you get older and more singular, more particularly it becomes increasingly less useful better to compare yourself to a previous version of yourself and work for improvement in that way.
Here’s an impossible thing why don’t you go out and fail. You say, here’s something worth going after, here’s a step you could take that would push you beyond where you are but that you also have a reasonably high probability of succeeding it within a time frame, that puts you in the zone of proximal development, and that’s a concept that was generated by a guy named Vygotsky (Russian Development Psychologist). When you’re in the zone, you’re expanding your skills in a manner that intrinsically rewarding, because you’re succeeding. So you want to set if you’re good to yourself, you think okay I need set a goal, but I need to set a goal that someone is stupid and useless as me could probably attain if they put some effort into it. And then you’ve got perfectly. It’s not so high that it’s grandiose or impossible that you fail necessarily and then you justify your bitterness. Life is a challenge that in some sense can’t be surmounted. So, there’s no way out of your problem, but there are certainly proper ways of dealing with.
People who have no purpose in their life are embittered by the difficulties of their life.
Lay a disciplinary structure on yourself, get the chaos in check. Adopt the responsibility to get your meaning. A clear conscience is better than happiness. That’s better. You’ve justified your existence.
FACE THE DIFFICULTIES. SET GOALS THAT IS APPROPRIATE AND CALIBRATE IT PROPERLY. TRY.
You know if you start with the presumption that there’s a baseline of suffering in life and that can be exaggerated by as a consequence of human failure as a consequence of malevolence and betrayal and self-betrayal and deceit and all those things that we do to each other and ourself that we know, that aren’t good that amplifies the suffering, that’s sort of the baseline against which you have to work and it’s contemplation of that often that makes people hopeless, depressed, anxious, and overwhelmed and all of that and they have the reasons. But you need something to put up against that. And what you put up against that is meaning.
Meaning is actually the instinct that helps you guide yourself through that catastrophe and most of that meaning is to be found in the adoption of responsibility. Well, you think about when you have a clear conscience first because that’s a good thing to aim at which is something different than happiness. If you think about the times when you’re at peace with yourself with regards to how you’re conducting yourself in the world, it’s almost always conditions under which you’ve adopted responsibility. The most guilt I think you can experience perhaps the sure knowledge that you’re not even taking care of yourself.
So you’re leaving that responsibility to other people because that’s pretty pathetic and unless you’re psychopathic and you know you’re living a parasitical life and that characterized a very small minority of people and an even smaller minority think that’s justifiable. And because you think you’re guilty because you’re not living up to your full potential and so there’s an existential weight that goes along with that. People have an unspecified potential for development, educationally obviously with regards to the skills they have but also in relationship to their character.
It’s much more encouraging for people I think to concentrate on who we could be rather than who we are especially when we’re still young because we still have most of life ahead and we’re not everything we could be yet. And so tell people even something like well you should feel good about yourself the way you are is like that there’s something that seriously lacking because there’s so much more you could be that you need to be and that you should be aiming at. The problem with being ok the way you are is that you don’t have a goal then and people need to have a goal in order to come to terms with their life.